[How it Works](https://queerasbooks.binderybooks.com/how-it-works/) [Bookshop](https://queerasbooks.binderybooks.com/books/bindery/) [Publishing](https://queerasbooks.binderybooks.com/publishing/) [Team](https://queerasbooks.binderybooks.com/team/) [Contact](https://queerasbooks.binderybooks.com/contact/) Log in or Sign up Delilah Green Doesn't Care Ashley Herring Blake Save to Your Books [Bookshop](https://bookshop.org/a/107860/9780593336403) [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593336402?tag=orlandoreads-20) 100% of affiliate revenue supports Queer as Books A clever and steamy queer romantic comedy about taking chances and accepting love—with all its complications—from the author of _Astrid Parker Doesn't Fail_. Delilah Green swore she would never go back to Bright Falls—nothing is there for her but memories of a lonely childhood where she was little more than a burden to her cold and distant stepfamily. Her life is in New York, with her photography career finally gaining steam and her bed never empty. Sure, it’s a different woman every night, but that’s just fine with her. When Delilah’s estranged stepsister, Astrid, pressures her into photographing her wedding with a guilt trip and a five-figure check, Delilah finds herself back in the godforsaken town that she used to call home. She plans to breeze in and out, but then she sees Claire Sutherland, one of Astrid’s stuck-up besties, and decides that maybe there’s some fun (and a little retribution) to be had in Bright Falls, after all. Having raised her eleven-year-old daughter mostly on her own while dealing with her unreliable ex and running a bookstore, Claire Sutherland depends upon a life without surprises. And Delilah Green is an unwelcome surprise…at first. Though they’ve known each other for years, they don’t really know each other—so Claire is unsettled when Delilah figures out exactly what buttons to push. When they’re forced together during a gauntlet of wedding preparations—including a plot to save Astrid from her horrible fiancé—Claire isn’t sure she has the strength to resist Delilah’s charms. Even worse, she’s starting to think she doesn’t want to... 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Why do so many people expect identity to arrive fully formed, laminated, and unchanged or like with a flashing neon sign that gives you the answer. If only it was that easy, I'd be out of a job.\\ \\ Identity, for many people can often be fluid across years because development responds to context. Research in developmental psychology shows identity formation continues across adulthood, not only during adolescence. Stay with my because I'm about to nerd out for a second, Erikson described identity as an ongoing task across the lifespan. Later researchers expanded this view. Kroger and Marcia (more dead psychology researchers) tracked identity statuses across decades and found shifts tied to relationships, work roles, parenting, loss, and social pressure. Longitudinal studies show stability in core values alongside movement in expression, labels, and priorities.\\ \\ Society sells a story promising "one big self discovery" moment. Cue montage music and some 90s mega movie stars in dressing rooms. Real life looks closer to repeated software updates. Some updates fix bugs. Others introduce new ones. No release notes included.\\ \\ Think about it like the kids you went to high school with who knew what they wanted to do with their life, went to college for exactly that, and now 25 years later are doing the same (my brother and sister actually...for sure not me) And there are people like me who tried on about 35 different identities and personalities until the perfect shape fit into the whole (wait this analogy is getting too sexual ... you get it) My identity did not break, it adapted, it evolved.\\ \\ So just like figuring out who we want to be when we grow up, attraction patterns shift. Gender expression shifts. Political views shift. Faith shifts. Nervous systems mature. Trauma responses soften or flare. Social roles change. Identity tracks survival, safety, meaning, and belonging. Consistency across all contexts would signal rigidity, not health. I was "straight" for like 20+ years, then I was bisexual, then I was non-binary, then I was trans-masc, now I'm feeling gender fluid, maybe lesbian? Maybe pansexual, who the fuck knows and honestly labels aren't as important to me as knowing what's true for me.\\ \\ Neuroscience supports this view, not of me being pansexual, but like the science of change. Brain development related to self concept, emotional regulation, and perspective taking continues well into adulthood. Research on narrative identity by Dan McAdams shows people revise personal stories across life stages to integrate new experiences. Each revision keeps coherence while updating meaning. Identity behaves less like a statue and more like an ongoing draft.\\ \\ Relationship research adds another layer. Studies on attachment and intimacy show people shape identity in response to connection and rupture. Falling in love reorganizes priorities. 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