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In #1 New York Times bestselling author Casey McQuiston's latest romantic comedy, two bisexual exes accidentally book the same European food and wine tour and challenge each other to a hookup competition to prove they're over each other—except they're definitely not.

Theo and Kit have been a lot of things: childhood best friends, crushes, in love, and now estranged exes. After a brutal breakup on the transatlantic flight to their dream European food and wine tour, they exited each other's lives once and for all. Time apart has done them good. Theo has found confidence as a hustling bartender by night and aspiring sommelier by day, with a long roster of casual lovers. Kit, who never returned to America, graduated as the reigning sex god of his pastry school class and now bakes at one of the finest restaurants in Paris. Sure, nothing really compares to what they had, and life stretches out long and lonely ahead of them, but—yeah. It's in the past.

All that remains is the unused voucher for the European tour that never happened, good for 48 months after its original date and about to expire. Four years later, it seems like a great idea to finally take the trip. Solo. Separately.

It's not until they board the tour bus that they discover they've both accidentally had the exact same idea, and now they're trapped with each other for three weeks of stunning views, luscious flavors, and the most romantic cities of France, Spain, and Italy. It's fine. There's nothing left between them. So much nothing that, when Theo suggests a friendly wager to see who can sleep with their hot Italian tour guide first, Kit is totally game. And why stop there? Why not a full-on European hookup competition?

But sometimes a taste of everything only makes you crave what you can't have.

“Move over ‘hot girl summer’ – ‘hot bisexual summer’ is ready for its moment and Casey McQuiston’s new novel The Pairing is here to usher it in.” - USA Today.

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Sapph-Lit\ \ Nina\ \ • Jan 23 2025

[Prepare yourself for a LONG newsletter full of ramblings on reading goals, bolognese, the intersection of Nosferatu & Babygirl, and of course our shitshow of a government. At the end you get a treat: help me pick out a wedding guest dress! READING: 2024 recap & 2025 goals! \ \ Okay so I’m a little late to the party with this one. What can I say, the holidays combined with seasonal depression and the inauguration has gotten your girl down in a pit of despair. Nevertheless, she persisted!! I’m already reading a LOT more in January than I was in December (thank you 12 hour TikTok ban for forcing me to look at words on a page again…JK) In December, I only read 2 books LOL — my partner and I have been listening to the Lord of the Rings on audiobook together. Anytime we take a road trip, Andy Serkis is our copilot and he does all of the voices in character SO PERFECTLY, especially Gollum of course.\ \ Also can I just say, Tolkein is SUCH a horse girl (just like me) — every time he introduces us to someone’s horse, he gives us so much detail and constantly reassures the reader that the horse is okay and survives the battles they’re facing. Like, when the hobbits went through the forest and their horses spooked off, Tolkien included a whole paragraph about how they found their way to Tom Bombadil’s cottage where he sheltered and fed them and gave them lots of love and pets??? Iconic. If you’re curious on my thoughts of the LOTR movies, I wrote all about it for the queer film focused Substack THE YEARNING.\ \ The other book I read was WILD & WRANGLED by Lyla Sage, an upcoming pub from Dial Press. The girlies went FERAL over copies of this ARC, and I quite literally begged both Lyla and Dial Press to get me one. After some groveling, I got a NetGalley widget and consumed the book in one sitting. It’s IMPECCABLE, the perfect topper to the end of the Rebel Blue series. I cannot express how excited I am for Lyla’s next series: SWEETWATER PEAK. Lyla describes it as a “contemporary take on a western gothic romance” where the two twin sister MCs are able to communicate with ghosts. I’m…sold. I love spooky. I love horses. I love romance. It’s everything!!!\ \ In 2024 I read 66 books total, across 22,823 pages! The first book I read was Girlhood by Melissa Febos, and the last one was of course Wild and Wrangled by Lyla Sage. My average rating was 3.98 stars, which tracks for me because I am LIBERAL with my 4 and 5 star ratings. If you’re not rating your books positively, why read them? Read what you love and have a good time! I read the most in August (makes sense, summer is always my best season) and I read the work of 24 new authors <3\ \ This year, I’m repeating my goal of 52 books a year. I used to read over 100 books a year when I was first getting into BookTok. I think part of that surge was because of the pressure I felt to constantly be creating new content and reacting to popular books I saw on the app. For 2025, it’s all about intentionality, quality over quantity, and leaning into joy and romance. What are your reading goals this year? Anything stand out in your 2024 reading wrapped? Let me know in the comments!\ \ \ \ ​\ \ EATING: My tried & true Bolognese recipe \ \ I really want to share more of my cooking on socials because it is one of the practices that makes me feel most like myself — I got my cooking skills from my mamma. When I was in high school, I did an independent project senior year that allowed me to drop my morning math and science classes so I could stay home and cook with my mom. I’m not kidding — how NYU let me in, I have no idea. 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Casey the Reader\ \ Casey\ \ • Jul 3

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[Now that I'm doing weekly reading roundups on Mondays, it doesn't really make sense to do a fave of the week on Fridays. I don't know exactly what I'm gonna do yet (I KNOW it doesn't have to be the same every week. But my brain does not! It likes routines!), but today I've got my June wrap up and a look forward at some books I hope to pick up in July. (Books marked with a * were gifted to me and books marked with a ^ I was paid to read.)\ \ For June reads, it's no surprise that all my faves (starred) were books I read for Pride Reading Bingo. Queer books forever!\ \ \ \ THE QUARTER QUEEN^\ \ WHY ARE PEOPLE INTO THAT?\ \ LONDON FALLING*\ \ ⭐️ SEVEN DEVILS\ \ ESCALA'S WISH^\ \ ⭐️ THE MAIDENHEADS*\ \ DUNGEON CRAWLER CARL (reread)\ \ ⭐️ SEASONS OF GLASS AND IRON*\ \ DIVERGENT (reread)\ \ POOL HOUSE*\ \ LOVE IS AN EX-COUNTRY\ \ RAISING ARTEMIS^\ \ THE FOREST ON THE EDGE OF TIME*\ \ ⭐ ONE OF THE BOYS*\ \ DEATH OF THE AUTHOR*\ \ ⭐ SHAPES OF LOVE*\ \

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Wanderland Reads\ \ Sayer\ \ • Dec 12 2025

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Identity exploration and normal variability deserve better marketing. Why do so many people expect identity to arrive fully formed, laminated, and unchanged or like with a flashing neon sign that gives you the answer. If only it was that easy, I'd be out of a job.\ \ Identity, for many people can often be fluid across years because development responds to context. Research in developmental psychology shows identity formation continues across adulthood, not only during adolescence. Stay with my because I'm about to nerd out for a second, Erikson described identity as an ongoing task across the lifespan. Later researchers expanded this view. Kroger and Marcia (more dead psychology researchers) tracked identity statuses across decades and found shifts tied to relationships, work roles, parenting, loss, and social pressure. Longitudinal studies show stability in core values alongside movement in expression, labels, and priorities.\ \ Society sells a story promising "one big self discovery" moment. Cue montage music and some 90s mega movie stars in dressing rooms. Real life looks closer to repeated software updates. Some updates fix bugs. Others introduce new ones. No release notes included.\ \ Think about it like the kids you went to high school with who knew what they wanted to do with their life, went to college for exactly that, and now 25 years later are doing the same (my brother and sister actually...for sure not me) And there are people like me who tried on about 35 different identities and personalities until the perfect shape fit into the whole (wait this analogy is getting too sexual ... you get it) My identity did not break, it adapted, it evolved.\ \ So just like figuring out who we want to be when we grow up, attraction patterns shift. Gender expression shifts. Political views shift. Faith shifts. Nervous systems mature. Trauma responses soften or flare. Social roles change. Identity tracks survival, safety, meaning, and belonging. Consistency across all contexts would signal rigidity, not health. I was "straight" for like 20+ years, then I was bisexual, then I was non-binary, then I was trans-masc, now I'm feeling gender fluid, maybe lesbian? Maybe pansexual, who the fuck knows and honestly labels aren't as important to me as knowing what's true for me.\ \ Neuroscience supports this view, not of me being pansexual, but like the science of change. Brain development related to self concept, emotional regulation, and perspective taking continues well into adulthood. Research on narrative identity by Dan McAdams shows people revise personal stories across life stages to integrate new experiences. Each revision keeps coherence while updating meaning. Identity behaves less like a statue and more like an ongoing draft.\ \ Relationship research adds another layer. Studies on attachment and intimacy show people shape identity in response to connection and rupture. Falling in love reorganizes priorities. Ending a relationship does the same. Chronic stress reshapes self perception. Identity responds because survival demands responsiveness.\ \ For queer and trans people, fluidity often reflects honesty rather than confusion. Research on sexual orientation and gender development shows variation across time, especially when safety increases. As environments grow safer, our exploration expands. Suppression decreases. Labels change to match lived experience rather than external demand.\ \ Here comes the practical takeaway. If your identity feels different from five years ago, nothing went wrong. Development simply continued. Here's a ti: curiosity helps more than panic, reflection works better than force. Asking what fits now supports mental health more than clinging to outdated roles.\ \ Questions worth asking:\ \ What feels true in daily behavior rather than fantasy?\ \ What drains energy versus restores energy?\ \ Which identities emerged during safety versus during threat?\ \ Which parts feel chosen versus inherited?\ \ Now the book recommendations because like, that's why we are all here. Each title supports identity exploration without promising fixed answers. Most are non-fiction but I've thrown some fiction into the mix too.\ \ Queer. Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker.\ \ Gender Trouble by Judith Butler\ \ Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg\ \ Delilah Green Doesn't Care by Ashely Herring Blake\ \ Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters a piece of classic lesbian literature\ \ On the Same Page by Haley Cass\ \ Late Bloomer by Mazzy Eddings\ \ The Color Purple by Alice Walker\ \ The Romance Recipe by Ruby Barrett\ \ The Pairing by Casey McQuiston\ \ The Stories We Live By by Dan McAdams\ \ What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo\ \ Identity changes because life changes. Stability comes from values and self awareness, not from freezing identity in time. Growth looks messy. Growth looks human.\ \ Join for free or login

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Sapph-Lit\ \ Nina\ \ • Jan 23 2025

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Fat Forward Books\ \ Samantha Puc\ \ • Dec 30 2024

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Favorite Books of 2024

I read so many books in 2024—more than I have in years and more than I have chronicled on my online reading trackers. 👀 Of all the titles I picked up this year, here are the ones that have stuck with me the hardest. 📚🖤✨

Have you read any of these books? What would you recommend based on my picks? What were your favorite reads of the year? Tell me in the comments!

(Authors and artists who aren’t tagged: Apparently you can only add 20 tags to a post but I hope y’all see this! Thank you for creating such great books!)

#ReadIn2024 #2024InReview

[Image ID: A 6x5 grid of book covers against a pink, orange, and yellow gradient background with black botanical sketches in the upper right and lower left corners. Bubbly black text above the grid says, “Favorite Reads of 2024.” Books are: Housemates, The Priory of the Orange Tree, Land of Milk and Honey, The Pairing, Behind You Is the Sea, All-Night Pharmacy, The Z Word, The Familiar, Piglet, Motheater, Private Rites, The Gloomy Girl Variety Show, Funeral Diva, The Cycle, Sec with a Brain Injury, None of the Above, Queer Palestine and the Empire or Critique, The Cost of Living, Borealis, Ten Bridges I’ve Burnt, The Chromatic Fantasy, Loving Ohio, The Deep Dark, Sunflowers, Soft (Director’s Cut), Brittle Joints, Punk Rock Karaoke, Youth Group, Pillow Talk, and Mary Tyler MooreHawk.]


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